An anonymous woman recently wrote to an online site expressing her horror at the discovery of an artificial vagina in her boyfriends’ closet. She writes: “I found a rubber vagina in my boyfriend’s closet! I got furious at him and threw it in his face and said “What’s this?” He got angry at me back and said it wasn’t any of my business, and that he had it long before he knew me. I am so angry at him right now I haven’t spoken to him in a week. He keeps calling me and said he would throw it away and he’s sorry. But why would he have such a toy and keep it in his closet? Aren’t I enough for him? I think this is a form of cheating. Am I wrong here? He thinks I am crazy, and being over the top. He’s been my boyfriend for a year now…I love him, but I never had this situation before. I have never used sex toys before and I think they are disgusting.”

Is the use of a rubber vagina cheating?

The truth is, men don’t regard the use of a fake pussy as cheating. Alfred Hitchcock would often remind his actors when they were taken themselves too seriously by saying ‘It’s only a movie’. In this instance the use of a rubber vagina for sexual pleasure when your partner is not around is only a piece of rubber.

As for the unfortunate guy who got caught, he pointed out that he had had the sex toy long before he met her, and in fact he is probably telling the truth because nowadays newer materials such as CyberSkin or FantaFlesh have largely replaced the use of rubber for all but the cheapest sex toys.

The advantage of silicone compound toys is that it can authentically mimic the feel of female flesh, where as rubber always feels like rubber. Silicone sex toys started to emerge around five years ago and nowadays tend to dominate the sex toy market. Silicone cleans up with just a wipe and if stored in a cool place keeps fresh and supple. Rubber tends to smell bad after a few uses. Even most sex toy stores tend to shove the rubber toys at the back of a long list of silicone styled toys.

However, there is plenty of name confusion over the different types of fake vagina materials and many people talk about realistic vagina replicas as a generic for all types of realistic pussy toys. The industry itself is partly to blame for this, partly because they call fake vagina toys anything from realistic to ultra realistic as and pussy toys. Then they say the toys are made from silicone, jelly or rubber, so the terms beome confused.

Another issue that has caused considerable confusion is the sheer amount of choice available. There is almost as much fake rubber, silicone or jelly pussy as there is real pussy and consumers have problems in understanding the difference. In fact there is probably more choice in fake vaginas than there are other consumer products so maybe the girl screaming as her boyfriend about the use of an artificial vagina should maybe tear him off a strip for not using a more hygienic silicone based fake vagina.