Here is a simple fact: anal stimulation is enjoyable. When the anal sphincter expands and contracts, it causes a pleasurable sensation. This is simply not up for debate. Yet, many people still can’t accept the idea that sexual anal play is a perfectly normal and healthy expression of passion. There’s not much that can be done about that directly. All we can really do is encourage good practices for anal play and hope that they catch on. With that in mind, here are a few basic tips that you should always use when engaging in anal play!
The first tip is simply to always put safety first! There’s nothing that will contribute more to the stigma of anal sex than sustaining or causing an injury during. The anus is a fairly fragile body part so it’s important to play safely. Never force things into the anus. Always work them in gently and slowly. The anus is very stretchy, it just needs be “worked” a bit before it is ready be penetrated by anything.
A key part in helping that along is tip #2: use lots of anal lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t have any way to naturally lubricate. Anal lube is sort of misnomer, as you can use pretty much any water based lubricant – it doesn’t need to specifically say “anal lube.” That said you may want to avoid things like flavored lubricants or massage oils which may irritate the anus. Other than that simple rule, there are really no other restrictions and there’s no such thing as too much! Go to town with the anal lube and you’ll have a safer and more enjoyable session.
Tip #3 also plays in with the first tip: take it slow. Some people are tempted to go for extremes and try and stick the biggest possible thing up there as soon as they start. There’s no reason to go overboard like that and it can be a flat-out bad idea! You should start with nothing bigger than your index finger. Once the body is used to that level of penetration, you can move up to two fingers, then three. Only then should you think about introducing sex toys into the equation.
Here’s a tip that might be a bit controversial: anal play isn’t just for women and gay men. If you’re a straight guy reading this you’re probably thinking about how these tips will apply to you having anal sex with your woman. That’s all well and good but you should at least consider being the recipient at some point.
While we’ve already covered that anal stimulation is just plain enjoyable, there’s a bigger reason: the male prostate. The prostate is an important part of a man’s sexual systems and stimulating it can work wonders for his sex life. Not only is it directly pleasurable, but it can also do things like increase sexual stamina and enhance the sex drive. The trick is, the best way to stimulate the prostate is through the anus. So don’t be afraid to take instead of give – and don’t forget the anal lube!
